Radical Forgiveness Worksheet
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The situation I was/is upset was....
Confronting: I am upset wtih ____ because:
Because of what you did, I feel:
Acknowledging My Own Humanness
I lovingly recognize and accept my feelings and judge them no more. I am entitled to my feelings.
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I own my feelings. No one can make me feel anything. My feelings are a reflection of how I see the situation.
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My discomfort was my signal that I was withholding love from myself and:
By judging, holding expectations, wanting:
to change and seeing:
...as less than perfect. (List the judgements, expectaqtions and behaviors that indicate that you were wanting him/her/them to change.) Note: Look to see how many of these judgements and expectations you are making about yoursef.
I now realize that in order to feel the experience more deeply, my soul has encouraged me to create a bigger story out of the event or situation than it actually seemed to warrant, considering just the facts. This purpose having been served, I can now release the energy surrounding my story by separating the facts from the interpretations I have made up about it. (List the main interpretations and circle the level of emotion and attachment you have around each interpretation now.)
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Core negative beliefs I either made up from my story or which drove the story:
I will never be enough
It is not safe to be me.
I am always last or left out
People always abandon me.
It is not safe to speak out.
I should have been a boy/girl
No matter how hard I try, it's never enough.
Life's not fair
It is not good to be powerful/successful/rich/outgoing
I am unworthy
I don't deserve
I must obey or suffer.
Others are more important than me.
I am alone.
No one will love me.
I am unloveable.
No one is there for me.
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Now Opening to a Reframe
I now realize that my soul encouraged me to form these beliefs in order to magnify my sense of separation so I could feel it more deeply for my spiritual growht. As I now begin to remember the truth of who I am, I give myself permission to let them go, and I now send love and gratitude to myself and _______ for creating this growth experience.
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Noticing a Pattern and Seeing the Perfection In It
I recognize that my Spiritual Intelligence has created stories in the past that are similar in circumstance and feeling to this one in order to magnify the emotional experience of separation that my soul wanted. I am seeing this as evidence that, even though I don't know why or how, my soul has created this particular situation too, in order that I learn and grow.
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List similar stories and feeling experiences and note the common elements in them.
I now realize that I get upset only when someone resonates in me those parts of me I have disowned, denied, repressed, and then projected onto them. I see now the truth in the adage, "If you spot it, you've got it!" It's me in the mirror!
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_____ is reflecting what I need to love and accept in myself. Thank you ____ for this gift. I am now willing to take back the projection and own it as a part of shadow. I love and accept this part of me.
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Even though I may not understand it all, I now realize that you and I have both been receiving exactly what we each ahd subconsciously chosen and were doing a dance with and for each other to bring us to a state of awakened consciousness.
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I now realize that nothing you, ______ have done is either right or wrong. I am able now to release the need to blame you or anyone else. I release the need to be right about this and I am willing to see the perfection in this just the way it is.
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I am willing to see that , for whatever reason, my mission or "soul contract" included having experiences like this and that you and I agreed to this dance with each other in this lifetime. If it is for the highest good for both of us, I now release you and me from that contract.
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I release from my consciousness all feelings of :
The Reframe Statement
The story in Box #1 was your victim story, based in the old paradigm of reality victim consciousness). Now attempt a different perception of the same event (a reframe), from your new, empowered position, based on the insights you have experienced as you have proceeded through this worksheet. I now realize...:
I completely forgive myself ______ and accept myself as a loving, generous, and creative veing. I release all need to hold onto emotions and ideas of lack and limitation connected to the past. I withdraw my energy from the past and release all barriers against the love and abundance that I know I have in this moment. I create my life and I am empowered to be myself again, to unconditionally love and support myself, just the way I am, in all my power and magnificence.
I now surrender to the Higher Power I think of as :
and trust in the knowledge that this situation will continue to unfold perfectly and in accordance with the divine guidance and spiritual law. I acknowledge my Oneness and feel myself totally reconnected with my Source. I am restored to my true nature, which is love and I now restore love to:
I close my eyes in order to feel the love that flows in my life and to feel the joy that comes when the love is felt and expressed.
A note of appreciation and gratitude to you:
Having done this worksheet, I...
I completely forgive you,
...for I now realize that you did nothing wrong and everything is in divine order. I bless you for being willing to play a part in my awakening - thank you - and honor myself for being willing to play a part in your awakening. I acknowledge and accept you just the way you are.
A note to myself:
I recognize that I am a spiritual being having a spiritual experience in a human body, and I love and support myself in every aspect of my humanness.
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